At each of the four major intersection of the highway and the busiest stores, they stand, or sometimes sit, with their cardboard signs. "Homeless and Hungry" I don't judge them. I don't always give them money, either because I don't have any extra cash or because I'm in the wrong lane. Yesterday, I made certain to get in the far left lane so that I could hand the fruit bar, meal bar, and money out to him without holding up traffic. He might not use the money for a good purpose, food/shelter, but that's not for me to judge. (Yes, I know that some panhandlers can make a lot of money in a day, I know that they might spend it on alcohol, but when inspiration hits, you can't ignore it.)
This morning at the grocery store my "carry out" girl told me that she didn't have a lot of money and her boss (the owner of the grocery store) gave her a $200 gift card for Christmas. "GAVE, they just gave it to me." So, she went to Toys R Us and bought her 18 month old daughter $200 worth of toys...and let her open one the other night. What I wanted to say was "no 18 month old child needs $200 worth of toys all in one lump sum...don't you think they expected you to use the money for food or clothes, not just waste it all on toys?!" Of course I didn't. I just commented on what a nice gift her boss gave her and wished a Merry Christmas.
Yep. Judge not. I gave freely without judging and then judged another for the way she had received. It's not my my place to tell someone how to spend their money, but sometimes I wish I could just funnel some common sense into their brains. Until then, I will take deep breaths and continue to learn how to not judge.
I don't think this is his best work, but still a fun song, and who can resist a very young Bob Marley.
Showing posts with label manners. Show all posts
Showing posts with label manners. Show all posts
Friday, December 19, 2008
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
Trash Talk Tuesday
There may not be a need for Trash Talk every Tuesday, but this week, I've got some!
Common courtesy, social graces, and basic good manners --truly basic, I'm not talking Emily Post perfection, just
the basics!
Although I'm far from perfect in this area, I believe that my parents raised me well and taught me most of the things I need to know. When teaching my own children, I'm seeing now that I wish I had insisted on certain manners earlier on with. Sometimes it seems that children are so little and some things are nothing to worry about, but once a habit is established, it's harder to change.
It is of course little things like Yes, ma'am, yes, sir, etc. However, my children certainly know that when someone is walking in a door behind you, rather than letting it slam in their face, you hold it open.
In defense of all geographic areas, it is not a Northerner thing or a Southerner thing or anywhere inbetween. We had people tell us that moving to Texas you'd meet the "nicest folks." Well, maybe some of them are fine, but others need some lessons in good manners and presentation.
I'm actually appalled at some of the behavior that I see on a regular basis. So, in no particular order, for the north, south, east, and west, near and far, at home or abroad, here are some courtesies, manners, and social graces that I really want to see make a comeback. :(
"Manner" words: Please, Thank You, Excuse Me, You're Welcome
Holding a door open for a fellow being...if you will be holding it for 5 seconds or less, or if it will slam in your fellow walker's face, hold the thing open. You can make up for the energy it took by eating a half of a jelly bean later.
When leaving a busy parking lot, let a car in every now and then. You may someday be that car and hopefully karma will come back around.
Likewise, letting someone merge in bumper to bumper traffic isn't going get you there any later.
Look people in the eye, smile, and say "hi." Other shoppers at the grocery store aren't your worst enemy and a simple "hi" won't kill you. In fact, it will actually make you feel better.
Offer to give up you seat or chair to grown ups (especially pregnant women) and really really grown ups (yes old people). Often times, they may prefer to stand, but ALWAYS offer.
Chew with your mouth closed.
Don't bring animals into stores...not even the cute purse sized ones.
Don't talk loudly or chew popcorn loudly in a movie theater.
Don't interrupt. We know our opinion is always better than someone else's, but at least pretend to listen. Don't speak when it's someone else turn.
Don't clip your fingernails in public...it's just gross.
A bottle of perfume is supposed to be bottomless...meaning it NEVER RUNS OUT!!! If you notice yours running out, YOU'RE USING TOO MUCH. If you are planning to be in an enclosed area, (office building, library church, restaurant, someone's home) don't douse yourself. Remember, you never want your smell to introduce your presence to a room.
Don't walk into someone else's house and start eating their food (or change the channel on the TV, or stopping the music) without asking. If you are there for dinner, ask if there is anything you can do to help. If you aren't there to eat, don't chow down.
Make space for fellow walkers in the store, the sidewalk, the park, whatever. You don't need to take up the whole path just so that you and your friends can all line up side-by-side. Fall back into two or three different lines and allow for others to pass by on the other side of you. (Note: passing by implies safety...don't make someone else walk in the gutter or street) Share the walkway.
If there is one cookie left, (or roll, taco, chips, popcicle, piece of chicken, etc...anything, really) offer to split it.
Pay attention to where you're going. Don't walk into people and don't expect them to move out of your way.
If someone is busy and you are sitting around doing nothing, offer to help.
Don't flick cigarrette butts out the window. Nobody wants your toxic waste on the streets of town. And never drop them at the playground. Kids put everything in their mouths...enough said.
If you have a cart full of groceries and the customer behind you has only 1 item, let them go in front of you. (Ask "Do you just have that one item?" That way, if they are actually waiting for their shopping partner, you won't let them in front of you and then have to wait 15 minutes.)
NEVER spit out your gum in a parking lot or on the sidewalk. Gum on shoes, in cars, in houses ...it just ruins someone's day...use a garbage!!!
Put your shopping cart in the cart return.
If you use the last of the toilet paper, get a new roll.
Before entering someone's home, ask if they want your shoes off. Shoes track in a lot of gross stuff that people just don't want their babies crawling around in and putting in their mouths.
And of course, if you open it, close it, if you turn it on, turn it off, if you get it out, put it away.
Unfortunately, the readers of my blog are courteous people. They already know and do all of these things, and more, so it only serves as a vent session. (Well, actually, I should say fortunately, I just mean it's too bad some of the people who need to hear this aren't the ones reading.)
I don't want to just blog a big whine session, but I decided that everybody could use a some vent time. So, in an attempt to keep all of my other days clear of all negativity, I'll just put it all up on Trash Talk Tuesday. If you ever feel a need to step away from possitivity for a few minutes, feel free to join me in some Trash Talk. (And this after my "Formula for Happiness" lol Whatever)
Common courtesy, social graces, and basic good manners --truly basic, I'm not talking Emily Post perfection, just
the basics!
Although I'm far from perfect in this area, I believe that my parents raised me well and taught me most of the things I need to know. When teaching my own children, I'm seeing now that I wish I had insisted on certain manners earlier on with. Sometimes it seems that children are so little and some things are nothing to worry about, but once a habit is established, it's harder to change.
It is of course little things like Yes, ma'am, yes, sir, etc. However, my children certainly know that when someone is walking in a door behind you, rather than letting it slam in their face, you hold it open.
In defense of all geographic areas, it is not a Northerner thing or a Southerner thing or anywhere inbetween. We had people tell us that moving to Texas you'd meet the "nicest folks." Well, maybe some of them are fine, but others need some lessons in good manners and presentation.
I'm actually appalled at some of the behavior that I see on a regular basis. So, in no particular order, for the north, south, east, and west, near and far, at home or abroad, here are some courtesies, manners, and social graces that I really want to see make a comeback. :(
"Manner" words: Please, Thank You, Excuse Me, You're Welcome
Holding a door open for a fellow being...if you will be holding it for 5 seconds or less, or if it will slam in your fellow walker's face, hold the thing open. You can make up for the energy it took by eating a half of a jelly bean later.
When leaving a busy parking lot, let a car in every now and then. You may someday be that car and hopefully karma will come back around.
Likewise, letting someone merge in bumper to bumper traffic isn't going get you there any later.
Look people in the eye, smile, and say "hi." Other shoppers at the grocery store aren't your worst enemy and a simple "hi" won't kill you. In fact, it will actually make you feel better.
Offer to give up you seat or chair to grown ups (especially pregnant women) and really really grown ups (yes old people). Often times, they may prefer to stand, but ALWAYS offer.
Chew with your mouth closed.
Don't bring animals into stores...not even the cute purse sized ones.
Don't talk loudly or chew popcorn loudly in a movie theater.
Don't interrupt. We know our opinion is always better than someone else's, but at least pretend to listen. Don't speak when it's someone else turn.
Don't clip your fingernails in public...it's just gross.
A bottle of perfume is supposed to be bottomless...meaning it NEVER RUNS OUT!!! If you notice yours running out, YOU'RE USING TOO MUCH. If you are planning to be in an enclosed area, (office building, library church, restaurant, someone's home) don't douse yourself. Remember, you never want your smell to introduce your presence to a room.
Don't walk into someone else's house and start eating their food (or change the channel on the TV, or stopping the music) without asking. If you are there for dinner, ask if there is anything you can do to help. If you aren't there to eat, don't chow down.
Make space for fellow walkers in the store, the sidewalk, the park, whatever. You don't need to take up the whole path just so that you and your friends can all line up side-by-side. Fall back into two or three different lines and allow for others to pass by on the other side of you. (Note: passing by implies safety...don't make someone else walk in the gutter or street) Share the walkway.
If there is one cookie left, (or roll, taco, chips, popcicle, piece of chicken, etc...anything, really) offer to split it.
Pay attention to where you're going. Don't walk into people and don't expect them to move out of your way.
If someone is busy and you are sitting around doing nothing, offer to help.
Don't flick cigarrette butts out the window. Nobody wants your toxic waste on the streets of town. And never drop them at the playground. Kids put everything in their mouths...enough said.
If you have a cart full of groceries and the customer behind you has only 1 item, let them go in front of you. (Ask "Do you just have that one item?" That way, if they are actually waiting for their shopping partner, you won't let them in front of you and then have to wait 15 minutes.)
NEVER spit out your gum in a parking lot or on the sidewalk. Gum on shoes, in cars, in houses ...it just ruins someone's day...use a garbage!!!
Put your shopping cart in the cart return.
If you use the last of the toilet paper, get a new roll.
Before entering someone's home, ask if they want your shoes off. Shoes track in a lot of gross stuff that people just don't want their babies crawling around in and putting in their mouths.
And of course, if you open it, close it, if you turn it on, turn it off, if you get it out, put it away.
Unfortunately, the readers of my blog are courteous people. They already know and do all of these things, and more, so it only serves as a vent session. (Well, actually, I should say fortunately, I just mean it's too bad some of the people who need to hear this aren't the ones reading.)
I don't want to just blog a big whine session, but I decided that everybody could use a some vent time. So, in an attempt to keep all of my other days clear of all negativity, I'll just put it all up on Trash Talk Tuesday. If you ever feel a need to step away from possitivity for a few minutes, feel free to join me in some Trash Talk. (And this after my "Formula for Happiness" lol Whatever)
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